Let’s be honest, we all judge instantly. It’s a protective mechanism that we’ve established.
There are things that tell your brain, without you even realising it, to be more aware of your surroundings and judge someone as a friend or a foe.This also happens in sales. People will judge you immediately. Our brains will make this decision for us, without us even consciously recognising it.
There are many things you can do to have more control over these thoughts, particularly from other people, but one of the best is being aware of your posture.
Have a look at Amy Cuddy’s TED talk on the power pose - I highly recommend it. She talks about how we can change our hormones to increase confidence by changing our body language.
It’s as simple as this. Stand like Wonder Woman with your hands on your hips. Do this before you get on the phone, before you go to the cafe for a meeting, before you’re hosting an event. Do it for two minutes at a time.
It’s been scientifically proven that your testosterone increases, your cortisol decreases and your oxytocin increases. The feel-good hormone goes up, the feel-bad (the stress hormone) goes down, and the confidence-lifting hormone of testosterone increases.
People are always going to judge you, just as you will judge others. But you can always obtain more confidence through your physical and energetic posture.Try a new stance, and see where it takes you.